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怎么办时,其他人都没有社会隔离

保持社交距离停止
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BySeth J. Gillihan, PhD 临床心理学家 2020年5月14日

我最近我们与我的妻子和孩子们下午加息,尽职尽责地戴着我们的面具和观察社会距离的准则。突然,不带口罩跑步传递我们从后面,气喘吁吁了口气云成我们共同的空气,因为他我们两个到三英尺之内就来了。我被激怒了,一个人可能会暴露我们的冠状病毒,当我们竭尽所能,以保护自己和他人。

If you’re being strict with your social distancing, chances are there are people around you who are being less careful. While the majority of Americans seem to understand the need tolimit contact with others减缓冠状病毒的传播,人们在他们的社交距离的做法有很大的不同。

Maybe you wear a face mask religiously in public, while many around you go maskless. Or maybe some people seem oblivious to the six-foot distance guidelines that you faithfully observe.

You might be more careful about social distancing than some of your friends and neighbors, or even the people you live with. Maybe your spouse doesn’t take the virus as seriously as you do, or your teenaged kids act like you’re freaking out for no reason and ignore your pleas to social distance.

你可以做什么,如果你发现自己在一个情况下其他人似乎被扔谨慎的风?

Safety Considerations

First, be very careful about confronting a stranger about their social distancing practices. This topic is highly charged and has become a major point of contention in the debate about how and when to restart the economy.

Attempts to change others’ behavior could potentially trigger a violent reaction, as已经发生好几次。你也延长接触某人wh风险o is at an elevated risk for carrying the coronavirus, given their disregard for social distancing; if they approach you and start yelling, you could get infected.

If you notice a persistent problem, contact those who are responsible for the space—for example, the manager of your grocery store or the authorities who oversee your local trails.

Beware of Catastrophizing

请记住,风险低的合同新冠肺炎from very small deviations in the social distancing guidelines. For example, if a fellow hiker stumbles and briefly comes within five feet of you, it’s unlikely you’ve just contracted the virus (which would also depend on their carrying it). While it might be frustrating to feel like others aren’t doing all they can to keep their distance, avoid making yourself more distressed than necessary.

大方

I recently discovered that a family member and I had very different views on what constituted effective social distancing. We follow very similar practices, which I believed to be close to 100 percent compliant with the recommendations, while they saw us as being more like 89 percent compliant. I was shocked to learn that what I saw as an A+, they gave a B+! So those who are less careful than you might think they’re doing a bang-up job of social distancing.

Aim to make the kindest possible interpretation for why others aren’t being as scrupulous about social distancing. It may not be that they’re “selfish,” “arrogant,” or ”uninformed”. They might just have a different understanding of risk and of the need to take precautions, and might think they’re actually being quite careful.

Maybe they think, for example, that it’s okay to get close to you in the grocery store since you’re both wearing masks (though the CDC guidelines say to “keep at least 6 feet between yourself and others, even when you wear a face covering”). Similarly, many people don’t seem to know that他们受到约束的宠物还需要保持社交距离。制作背后的行为原因的不同判断可以使你感到不那么心烦(即使该行为本身没有风险较低)。

Communicate Honestly to Loved Ones

让朋友或家人知道你是否关心他们的社会疏远的做法。你可能不会改变他们的想法或自己的行为,但至少你会知道你做了什么你可以保护他们和他们所遇到的问题。

Be clear and firm about where your boundaries are. Don’t feel pressured to change your behavior if local family or friends try to convince you to hang out with them. Even if they say you’re being “ridiculous” or “paranoid,” you don’t have to compromise what you believe is right and what you’re comfortable with.

最大的挑战可能当你和你住在一起看不到眼眼对社会疏远的家庭成员。你对你的关注心爱的人公开谈论,使用积极自信的沟通:

  • Take ownership for your thoughts and feelings, rather than making accusations.例如,说:“我担心你会带病毒的家里爷爷”,而不是“你这个人真是愚蠢和自私。”
  • Say what’s on your mind as calmly and rationally as possible.The fear you feel about the virus will likely lead to anger, but an aggressive tone will just put the other person on the defensive and lead nowhere.
  • Listen to the other person’s perspective.试着了解他们的想法和感受,而不是仅仅听你不同意什么。你可能不同意他们的结论一致,但它有助于知道他们来自何处。如果他们真正感到听说他们也可能更愿意考虑改变他们的行为。

控制你能

试图让别人做你想要什么是不可能的工作,通常只会导致挫折。最终你只能控制自己。你不能强迫你的同伴行人给人行道和步道敬而远之,例如,但你可以采取措施,远离它们尽可能。您可能需要自己暴露在公共场所限制在一天中最不繁忙的时间,或避免狭窄的小径,让疏远困难。

Remind yourself of the value of accepting the limits of what you can control. This requires a deep level of acceptance, which doesn’t mean resignation. You can care about this issue a great deal, even as you acknowledge that your control is limited.

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Seth J. Gillihan, PhD

赛斯J. Gillihan,博士,是每周一次的有执照的心理学家和主机认为法要播客。He is author ofThe CBT Deck,重新训练你的大脑, and认知行为疗法繁为简, and co-author with Dr. Aria Campbell-Danesh ofA Mindful Year: 365 Ways to Find Connection and the Sacred in Everyday Life。Dr. Gillihan provides resources for managing stress, anxiety, and other conditions on the认为法要website

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